Starting School
Welcome to Bishop’s Hull Primary School
Starting school is a big event for all children and it may take some getting used to. It is a new experience, and it is quite normal for your child to feel all different sorts of emotions. They may feel excited, nervous, worried or reluctant: all of these emotions are normal.
As a school, we value the wellbeing of all children and see it as a foundation to their learning, Below are a range of really helpful resources which we recommend you look at to help you and your child to feel confident about starting school.
Understanding Emotions - How to support you and your child
Starting school can be an exciting yet challenging time for young children emotionally. Dr Sarah Temple has written a simple, informative book which aims to help parents and caregivers in knowing how to talk about emotions and feelings with their children and how to manage more challenging emotional outbursts. She has kindly offered a free, downloadable copy of her book 'All Emotions are OK' (click link).
Positively Supporting Separation
Reading the recommended books below in the week or two leading up to school may help your child to process some of the emotions they are feeling about starting school and build and grow their confidence.
The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
The Colour Monster Goes to School by Anna Llenas
Parental tips for Separation Anxiety
Create a short, simple goodbye ritual. For example, two kisses and a hug. However hard it can be to mask your own feelings, try to keep your goodbye 'positive' to help your child feel confident and self-assured about heading into school. Don't sneak away, let your child know you are leaving.
Be consistent. Try to drop and pick up at the same time each day to avoid the unexpected factors. A routine can help build trust and confidence for a child.
Be specific. Discuss with your child a time or event to indicate when they will next see you.
Greetings. When separating from your child, give them your full attention and love, followed by a brief goodbye. When collecting them, give them a warm greeting. Don't be concerned if they do not greet you joyfully, they may even be angry or avoid looking at you. This is normal - try not to take offence. In fact, it shows that your child is confident in their relationship with you and are able to show their true feelings. Let them know how happy you are to see them and how much you have missed them.
Practise. If you have not spent much time apart, practise this. Start with scheduled playdates, or visit to a family member's house. Build up time in order to prepare them for school.
Find your support. It can be very hard for parents when their child starts school. You are not alone. Talk to those nearest to you to gain support or perhaps write down your thoughts and feelings if you do not feel comfortable sharing. By working through your own emotions, this can help reduce your own anxieties and prevent your child from taking them on.